In today’s write-up, we shall discuss about how to tell if a girl is dating multiple guys
She brings up her ex a lot. Bringing up an ex probably means sheâs not over them. And when someoneâs still in love with their ex, theyâre probably not ready to commit to a monogamous relationship just yet. Talking about previous partners doesnât automatically mean sheâs out seeing other people, but itâs definitely something that should set off alarm bells. Itâs okay to bring up your ex every now and then, but if you two canât go a full day without talking about past partners, thatâs not a good sign.
Her phone is constantly blowing up. Tons of texts or DMs could mean that sheâs seeing other people. If you notice that her notifications are going off but she seems reluctant to check them in front of you, it could be because theyâre her other dates. She might also seem jumpy or nervous if you ask to use her phone, even if itâs for something simple (like playing music or looking something up). Your date doesnât ever have to give you full access to their phone (since that invades their privacy). However, even in casual relationships, you should be able to glance at your partnerâs phone or change the music without them making a fuss.
She doesnât post about you on social media. She might be hiding you online to get more dates. If you two follow each other on Instagram or Facebook, check to see if sheâs made any posts about you at all. If there arenât any, she might be dating other people behind your back. Not everyone posts a lot on social media, which is totally fine. However, if she makes posts pretty often and you arenât in them, there might be a reason why.
She doesnât ask you to stay the night. In committed relationships, itâs usually okay for one person to sleep over. If you have a nice time together and itâs getting late, she might hurry you out the door, even if you live far away. This is a red flag because it could mean that sheâs not super serious about your relationship. On the flip side, some people just donât like their dates sleeping over when they have stuff to do in the morning (like work or school). If sheâs just super busy, this might not be a bad sign.
Youâre fighting more often than usual. She may be comparing you to the other guys sheâs seeing. If you notice that you two are fighting over little stuff, like leaving the toilet seat up or being 15 minutes late to dinner, that could be a bad sign. When youâre dating multiple people, you automatically compare and contrast them. And if youâre not living up to her expectations, she might start getting irritated. She could also be picking fights about little things in the hopes that youâll get mad enough to break it off with her.
She wants to slow your relationship down. If sheâs unwilling to commit, she might be dating multiple people. Maybe you two have chatted before about being exclusive, but she didnât want that. Or, maybe sheâs told you that she wants to take things slow, but you didnât think theyâd be this slow. Either way, if things are moving too fast for her, thereâs a chance sheâs still dating other people. On the other hand, some people like to take relationships slow so they feel totally comfortable with the other person before committing to them. If thatâs the case for her, then this isnât necessarily a bad thing.
You havenât defined the relationship yet. When you arenât exclusive, technically youâre allowed to see other people. If you two havenât had the âWhat are we?â talk yet, then your date is well within her rights to see other guys. However, if youâd like that to change, sit down with her and chat about the state of your relationship and how serious youâd like to be in the future. Bring it up by saying something like, âHey, I know we havenât really talked about this yet, but could we chat about what weâre doing here? I really like you, and I hope you feel the same.â
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